Dealing With Death
Tomas’s sudden death is by far the most challenging, traumatic thing Allisen and her friends have ever had to live through. One day he was alive, joking around and living life just like everybody else. The next day he was dead, gone forever from this world.
Tragedies affect different people in different ways. Allisen and her friends were all sad, shocked, and horrified. They all cried, they all mourned, they all temporarily felt like they would never be happy again.
Allisen in particular went through a period of time in which she was paralyzed by fear. Seeing how quickly Tomas was taken away made her worry that maybe someone else she loved would be taken away just as quickly, and this fear consumed her. She spent every day constantly worrying and stressing out about everyone’s safety.
Allisen finally found a way out of this crippling fear by trusting God. She and her friends hosted a meeting in which everyone could discuss the difficult emotions they were experiencing as a result of Tomas’s death, and they shared Bible verses in the hopes that these verses would provide some comfort. Although the meeting and the Bible verses by no means “fixed the problem”, they helped alleviate some of the struggles people were facing. Talking about sadness, pain, regret, guilt, and worry with the whole group helped everyone realize that they weren’t alone in their feelings. Hearing the Biblical messages about eternal life and God’s comfort gave them a sense of hope.
The death of a loved one—or even just a person you know—is traumatic. There’s no way around that. And it is completely normal to feel a wide array of negative emotions after it happens, even for a prolonged period of time. But talking about your feelings with others and seeking hope through a relationship with God are two things that can help. They won’t take away your pain entirely, but they will help. If you’re walking through the darkness right now because someone you know just died, I want you to realize that even though it seems impossible right now, things will get better.
Tragedies affect different people in different ways. Allisen and her friends were all sad, shocked, and horrified. They all cried, they all mourned, they all temporarily felt like they would never be happy again.
Allisen in particular went through a period of time in which she was paralyzed by fear. Seeing how quickly Tomas was taken away made her worry that maybe someone else she loved would be taken away just as quickly, and this fear consumed her. She spent every day constantly worrying and stressing out about everyone’s safety.
Allisen finally found a way out of this crippling fear by trusting God. She and her friends hosted a meeting in which everyone could discuss the difficult emotions they were experiencing as a result of Tomas’s death, and they shared Bible verses in the hopes that these verses would provide some comfort. Although the meeting and the Bible verses by no means “fixed the problem”, they helped alleviate some of the struggles people were facing. Talking about sadness, pain, regret, guilt, and worry with the whole group helped everyone realize that they weren’t alone in their feelings. Hearing the Biblical messages about eternal life and God’s comfort gave them a sense of hope.
The death of a loved one—or even just a person you know—is traumatic. There’s no way around that. And it is completely normal to feel a wide array of negative emotions after it happens, even for a prolonged period of time. But talking about your feelings with others and seeking hope through a relationship with God are two things that can help. They won’t take away your pain entirely, but they will help. If you’re walking through the darkness right now because someone you know just died, I want you to realize that even though it seems impossible right now, things will get better.
